Mother’s Day special

 

Opps, this title sounds like the show of tv program, isn’t it?

 

13^th of May is the second day of my work as a part timer in a shop in Midvalley. (not suitable to mention its’ name here)

 

(I was finding job since a few weeks ago, but I can’t even get a job, sound sad, isn’t it? Maybe this reflects the situation in

Malaysia

, where Malaysians are getting harder and harder to find a job, so, they will be unemployed or jobless. Finally, the numbers of crimes will increase, especially robbing, cheating, escaping from paying debt, etc. Sorry for going too far again)

 

It is Sunday, a day where its’ customers was never stop coming in the shop.

It is incredible!

This is first time I work with a shop/outlet/company that its’ business is so good until I’ve no chance to take rest, or even take a deep breath.

 

I was tasked to guard the entrance of shop.

My job is greeting customers who come in and go out from the shop.

Sometimes, I will have to fold the clothes that had been messed-up by the customers.

As now, we are having 50% sales. So, all the customers will not miss the chance to find out the nice but reasonable price items for them to “change” the design of their wardrobe.

 

Eh… After bla,bla,bla… for so long, I think it’s the time to start my story regarding to the title. What I said in the very beginning is just want to imagine the condition or background of this story…

 

Can imagine it already?

K, here we go…

I will start my story with this conversation with an unidentified girl/lady/woman. (As what I said just now, I was unable to identify her identity, so I am not sure how to call her. But I just know that she is a female customer who came in the shop for window shopping)

 

She was walking out from the shop. She is with long and curly hair, like the famous hair style recently. She too highlights it (one of the way to make some parts of hair to be in golden color or any others colors like red or blown). So, it is no harm if I “titled” her as modern woman, as she is about 40 in ages. (But, the technology is very advance and well developed now, including the cosmetic tech, so who know; maybe she is 50 or 60 now?)

 

But, I have to clarify that I am not hate or dislike her. K, here is our conversation:

 

The woman walked out arrogantly from my shop with a black color handbag on her shoulder of her right hand.

“Thank you and happy mother’s day” I greeted.

She walked a few steps out from my shop. Just a few steps from my left hand side.

She looked back at me and said: “How you know I am a mother? Am I looked like a mama?”

I felt shocked and my mind just can’t connect well, as I really don’t know how to respond to what she had said.

“Er… I mean everyone is celebrating mother’s day” I responded to her.

She said nothing and maybe not satisfies with my answer. Lastly, she walked away.

 

That time, I start asking myself, am I doing mistake by greeting others “Happy Mother’s Day”? Should I continue to do so (Greeting other customers with this warmly wish)? Will other customers also respond like that?

 

But, in other cases, there are a few customers responded to my greeting differently. Especially the foreign customers who came

Malaysia

for traveling. Or the pregnant women that just came out from the shop. Or the old women that visited my shop with their family. I think they felt happy to be greeted that way, as mother’s day is so meaningful for them.

 

On the other hand, some customers didn’t respond to me. They just walked out, without respond, even with a smile. This happen especially on Malaysians’ customers. Are Malaysians become cooler and cooler? They don’t know how to reply a greeting like saying thank you or even reply with a smile? So poor, Malaysians! (I am not desire other to say thank you, but it’s a courtesy by saying thank you when people wishing us right, isn’t it?)

 

In other case, it is a sms within my friend and me.

I know her in USM, a girl that I start to know her during I was joining the Radioactive (DJ’s competition).

She is my junior, taking mass communication in USM.

Again, I am not going to reveal her name here, to protect her privacy.

 

This is my sms to her:

Remember who is the person who fed you the first meal?

Remember what is the first word that you called?

Ya, is “mama”

So, wishing you and your mum Happy Mama’s Day.

 

This was what she replied (I change a bit her sms, but what she wants to express is just like this):

… This is the first time I was greeted “Happy Mother’s Day”… and I felt shocked…

(She means she is not yet a mother, and wondering why I wished her Happy Mother’s Day?)

 

So, from the two examples above, I can conclude that our concept over mother’s day is not correct. For me, Mother’s day should be celebrated by everyone, not only mothers are the person to celebrate mother’s day.

Who grew us up?

Who fed us the first meal and continue to feed us until the day we know how to feed ourselves?

Who always try their best to protect us gave/gives us their support over everything we are dealing with?

Who never leave us alone at the darkness without caring about us?

Is her, our mum, our lovely mum!

 

So, mother is not the only person who will celebrate mother’s day.

We as a son/daughter have to remember this.

We are the person that should pay back their kindliness.

We should be the person that will protect them, until the day they leave us.

It sounds sad, we have to accept the reality that, they are going to leave us pne day.

So, we should never miss a chance to pay back their kindliness.

Remember that, giving them money is not the best way.

 

Just like typical essay writing, we will complaint that:

… Parents who are too materialistic, who only know how to earn money and think that money is the only way to satisfy their children’s need are contributing to the increasing numbers of cases where teenagers involved in social problem…

You still remember these typical sentences that you wrote in your essay? (I am one of them who wrote this in my essay, I admit it)

So, the same thing happens to us and our parents soon. (the day when our parent getting old)

 

And the case will become:

… Children who are too materialistic, who only know how to earn money and think that money is the only way to satisfy their parents’ need are contributing to the increasing numbers of cases where a lot of old people was neglected and sent to old folk houses …

Are you agreeing with this statement?

 

The best way is love them, take care of them.

Just like our condition now and before, we desire their care and love.

Don’t ever miss the chance to love and care about them.

 

So that, we will not regret after all.

“Happy belated Mother’s Day” and “Happy be’earlier’ Father’s Day” to my parents and all of you who are reading my blogs.

 

Chong Lee

5.22pm, 15^th of May, 2007

(The pictures was grabbed from Yahoo!'s Image Search with the key word: Mother)

Comments

[Tan]

heheheh... it really sound sad that we as Malaysians..but you dare to voice this out, not bad ..hehehe seems like Malaysia will still have some hopes glowing.. well, the fact that you mentioned here was undoubtly right! so wat to do.. perhaps what we can change is ourself lo.. always start to change yourself first before we change others. ^_^ but anyway.. it needs time..
P/s: maybe that blown hair lady that you mention just now came from an unhappy family or she is a divorcee.. so she's not happy to be called a mum.. hahahah anyway, don't try to guess on others. just make sure that we will treeat our mum as best as possible , spent more time on them, and be grateful to wat we have to day... i heard a meaningful sentence b'4 in mandarin, trying to tanslate to english, it sounds like this, if you're a ble to spend one more minutes with your parents one more minutes when they'are still alive, this will be better than you missed them for the rest of your life when they're no longer here.. it's touch wood to said so.. but it's true, right? ^_^

[dj ChONg]

Opps, You mistaken my meaning, maybe you didn't read my blog clearly, are you?
I mean that,I wish everyone Happy Mother's Day, not because he/she is a mother.
I meant everyone celebrating Mother's Day, so what wrong if I greet?
Hehe...
Sound bad to give this feedback, but I didn't mean to fight back what you had mentioned, I just attempt to explain my condition, hope you understand that.
Thank.

[sakiinah]

hey mr. dj,
long time no post eh?
btw, i just want to say that i was shocked bcoz its weird to be wished HMD by others bcoz im the one who should wish that to my mum..instead others yg remind me of it..thanks for the reminder tho.

can i just add one bit.. parents nowadays sents their children to boarding school..and it seems now children nowadays sents their parents to their 'boarding school' (folks home)..hehe.. true isn't?

hurm, im having quite a hell too in my work place but hey..let the games begins. bring it on and just play along~

[dj ChONg]

Ya, is true, maybe we will be sent to 'boarding school' one day.... :-(